5 Things You Can Do Now to Help Your Twin Flame Connection

Since a Twin Flame connection is one based on energy, everything you’ve ever been taught or learned in other relationships will not apply to this connection.  You are literally learning as you go from the ground up.  You may read or watch things telling you how to get your person back, or how to balance your energy enough that makes them want to stay with you, but the truth is there is only one thing you can do that will be a be all end all for this connection.  And that is learning how to align with soul! Period. End of blog.  Just kidding. I’ll continue to write, but this blog is really about steps you can take to align with soul and in doing this, as a byproduct, it naturally helps your Twin Flame connection.

Here are 5 quick things that can be done to help anyone in a Twin Flame connection, regardless of what stage of the connection you are in.

1. Get off Social Media- this first step is for those that struggle with their energy when engaging in social media. It is a trigger for many and if it is for you, then be honest with yourself and either delete your accounts, pause them, or just stop looking. 

Social media was a huge trigger for me, even before separation, when I was living with my person.  It sparked many fights between us, and it made my addictive energy go crazy for various reasons.  I remember reading (ok, I’ll be more honest…stalking) all his comments he posted on Twitter.  I looked at who he started being “friends with”, who was liking and commenting on his posts…then I’d read through their profiles and the energy it created within me was disgustingly toxic.  For both of us.  And that was just Twitter.  With Facebook, just seeing his past photos (of before we were even together), was hard for me, let alone knowing he was still friends with his first love on the site and she would sometimes comment on his posts. It drove me crazy.  I couldn’t handle the energy it stirred within, but I kept looking.  That is how addictive energy works.  It keeps feeding you small hits and makes you come back for more. 

As soon as my toxic energy repelled enough for soul recognition (the point when the full push/repel is activated), I had to release social media.  I had to.  It was destroying me from the inside out.

 It has been a year.  I am now balanced and in a permanent co-relating experience with my person and life has been good. Peaceful. I still rarely frequent my personal FB page.  I have a work page that I go on, without any friends.  I only go on now for seeing different groups and pages that make me smile and feel good (because it’s soul mode all the time for me-even while on social media).  As for Twitter, I now only go on there if my person sends me a message with a link to it. I never go on by my own accord.  I realized when I started to listen to my energy as my guidance system, that social media was something that kept me in mind energy and that was a place I no longer wished to reside.

2. Stop Asking Questions- This is a hard thing to do, because it’s changing a communication style that has been a part of you. There is the natural back and forth of communicating that often comes with questioning who you are talking to, to know more as well as show that you care what’s going on with them.  But in reality, questions are from mind.  Soul doesn’t question because soul just is.  It is always the silent observer.  I’m still not as adept at this skill as I’d like to be, but I have gotten much better.  With my person, especially, I steer away from almost all questions.  Because our relationship cannot thrive when there is mind involved, so if I’m asking questions, boom…I’m in mind.  I limit my questions to subjects like ancient history (things we both are interested in, but he can teach me a thing or two about).  I release the need to ask personal questions.  I let him direct our personal conversations and try to be present and in soul when we talk.  Which is being in a place free of judgment, expectations, and questions.

3. Let Go of Expectations- I just mentioned this term “expectations” in the prior topic. Part of surrendering to soul, is letting go of expectations and preferences when it comes to anything to do with your person. What does this look like in terms of soul alignment and your twin flame?? Well, it looks like, you texting them, and not having any expectation of a response from them.  It is being able to know a special occasion (birthday, Valentine’s, anniversary) is just around the corner and having no expectations about that day.  To soul…those days are just another day. It has no preference and no expectation.  It is having no expectations on the future (remember, future is mind).  Because soul alignment is always in the present, just focus on now. And in this now moment, you don’t need anything.

4. Choose You First- Don’t dote on them and cater to them. Don’t place them on a pedestal.  They can’t handle that feeling.  It actually is push energy and puts an overwhelming amount of stress on them.  They need to feel that you are whole and complete on your own and they are able to independently exist with you, not co-dependently. When you choose you, they choose you.  When you put your own needs and desires first (outside of them), they love that.  It is about making you a priority.  You can never go wrong when you choose you!

      5.  Stop Needing Them- Needy energy is one of the most toxic energies in this connection. They feel it so deeply, and they carry that energy around with them until the point of soul recognition, when they just can’t handle it anymore. Needing anything from them is separation consciousness. You are already one. If you look to them to complete, or be anything to you, outside of you…it is mind being in separation consciousness.  Think of this.  How can you need what you already are? Why do you seek what you already are? You are one.  You are them. They are you.  There is nothing from them that you need because you already have it all within.  This goes for needing them for validation, for love, affection, chores, etc.  You can do anything independently.  They are extra in your life.  When you can get to a place where you know you don’t need them for anything and can essentially live without them…that is when they will never leave. The crazy paradox of this connection.

 I hope this blog has shed some light on ways to align with soul. Always remember that there is only one way to be with your person in the physical 3D…and that is through a place of soul.  That is the only place they can meet you. 

If you need help with your journey, please feel free to reach out to us!  We are here to help you in this crazy, beautiful connection!