As the Awakened Twin Flame, You Get to Choose: Twin Flame, Soulmate, or Solitude

I know you may have read the title of this post and initially thought like “How do I get to choose?”.  But you do! Your Twin Flame connection is all based on your energy and your energy alone.  Many clients come to us, while still in addictive energy, and wonder how they can live a life without their person.  But it doesn’t have to be that way. The problem is that most people equate progress in this journey to when their person manifests, and that is the wrong thing to base progress by.  The Twin Flame connection is a beautiful gift given to you for your own personal spiritual growth and ascension.  It was never meant to be to have a partner for life (although that is possible through soul alignment).

You don’t gauge how well you are doing with your journey by anything your person is doing in the physical.  They are merely a byproduct of your alignment.  You gauge your journey by how your energy is feeling on a consistent basis.  Have you been able to balance the addictive energy? Or is it still dominating your every waking moment? When your energy is balanced and focused on you, that is when your person can come back to you (but simply because they are attracted to the energy you are emitting).

So, when we say you get to choose in this connection, you do.  You get to choose if you want to do all of the hard work involved in getting your energy to a consistent place of peace and neutrality, where they can co-exist in your physical world with you (because remember, they are you and are already one). But as you know, this journey takes a lot of mental work, there is a lot of emotional anguish and intentional focus that needs to go into almost every moment of your day.  But the payoff is, if you want them back and you are in a place of working on your soul alignment (specifically and only for you), then they will come back.  But your intention MUST be pure and be based only on you wanting to feel better for you, and nothing to do with them coming back.  The paradox of this connection is that they will come back when you no longer care if they do or not.  That is a full surrender, our loves.  That is a place of no preference or expectation.

If you decide that the anguish, focus, and work is not worth it and you want to have an emotional 3D soulmate, then that is also an option for you.  A soulmate will be the one you can have a fairy tale with (that is not your Twin Flame…it will never be the fairy tale).  You can share all your secrets, fears, worries, stories with your soulmate.  Why? Because all those things are from mind, and you could never do that with your Twin without pushing them away.  Your Twin doesn’t want to hear what scares you or what you are worried about 5 years from now.  You can’t go and gossip with them like you can a soulmate. The reason is because all those topics keep you in the lower mind energies and that is where your connection pushes.  To thrive in your connection, you must be out of mind and in the vibrations of soul (peace, love, and joy). Determine what you want.  If you want someone to share all of your thoughts from mind with and have the potential fairytale that is a soulmate.

People often get confused because the Twin Flame connection is so romanticized.  But it is done so inaccurately.  The moment I start telling my person anything I’m worried about; I can literally feel his energy pull (even if the topic doesn’t concern him).  So, to thrive in our connection, I must always be on my A Game in terms of Soul alignment. That is why many get frustrated in this journey and when in a permanent co-relating experience.  They realize that they are doing all the hard emotional work alone. Their person can live in the mind all they want, it doesn't affect the connection, but if the push polarity even dips their toes into mind territory, it throws the energy of the whole connection off.

Finally, the last option you can choose is solitude or as we like to say, SOULitude. This is another gift from this journey.  It’s one where you can learn how to love the present moment and learn how to just BE. This option is good for those that don’t want to do all the work involved in having to be in SOUL all the time for your person to come back and stay in your energy.  You also don’t want to be in any kind of romantic relationship with anyone else now that you have experienced the intensity of your soul. You can opt for living in soulitude. This is where you can continue to focus on you and your soul purpose, but not have the pressure of needing to do everything required to consistently stay aligned merely to keep the connection thriving. 

I want to emphasize, that if you choose one option now, that doesn’t mean you can’t change and adjust what you want later.  You always get to choose! This is your journey, learn how to make it work for you as the awakened twin.  You have been gifted with this powerful energy!! Use it to make you happy and to start living your best life! 

Here is a YouTube video we did on this topic if you'd like more perspective and information.

 https://youtu.be/xdBeeChBoiA