Tip for the Awakened Parent

When your child gets upset and starts to cry, do you immediately have the urge to tell them that there is nothing to cry about, in an attempt to calm them?  Crying is our ability to release emotions that don’t serve us.  So, when we push down anything that we are feeling because we don’t allow for the natural release, we are holding onto emotions that will later resurface in the form of triggers.

Now, think about your childhood.  How did your parents or caregivers handle you crying?  I know for myself, I cried when I was alone because my parents made me feel bad if I did it in front of them. I remember feelings of embarrassment and shame if I started crying in front of them.  So, instead of allowing my parents to see me cry, I denied myself or went into my room to handle the pain alone. In the actual moment that something made me sad, I held in those low energy emotions, fearful of them getting released.  Often, I stuffed them so far down the water well, they were lost in the abyss…until years later…when they weren’t.  And when these emotions resurfaced later in life, they were so painful if felt as if daggers were stabbing me from the inside out, in their attempt to escape.

For almost 14 years of my marriage, I was emotionless.  I think I cried a handful of times, if that, and only then when I was frustrated or stressed.  As soon as I left my ex-husband and met my Soul, I was faced with a torrential downpour of emotions that needed to escape. But the escape attempt this time around was beyond excruciating. I cried daily, if not multiple times a day.  And I didn’t know why at the time. But it was energy.  Pent up energy that had been denied being felt at the initial time that the emotion was created and experienced.

If we allow ourselves to experience and feel the emotion at the time it is initially felt, we can release the energy that is generated in that moment.  But we don’t do that and many of us don’t allow our children to do it either.  We learned from our parents that crying is something to be embarrassed about (especially for male children in our society) and we pass those lessons on to our kids.  Usually this is a result of our own lack of patience or from not being able to sympathize from a child’s perspective of the pain, fear, or embarrassment that has caused them to want to cry.

Now that I’m awakened, I know the value of crying.  I have released years of pent-up emotions and energy and I have allowed myself to free myself from the burden of these pains that were buried so deep. In each release, I feel myself align more and more with soul. Each time new triggers surface, they are never as painful as the last time, because I have shed layers of unnecessary emotions that don’t serve me.  Now, when I am faced with my own children crying (for any reason-no matter how minor), I tell them it is ok to cry.  Let it out. And I mean it. 

And then after they have cried and the tears have stopped spilling down their sweet innocent faces, I explain to them the difference between mind and soul.  I tell them that they are not their emotions, and they are not their fears. They are SOUL.  This is a very hard concept, even for adults, so I don’t truly expect them to understand or even embrace this way of thinking the first, second, or even tenth time I’ve told them.  But I know the more they are exposed to this concept, the more it will become something that can resonate with. 

I feel like the greatest gift I can offer my child, is teaching them the ability to differentiate between mind and soul. Knowing this truth, and being able to identify it, will be a fast track to their own soul alignment.  It will empower them and teach them that there is nothing to fear.  That fear is a thought from the mind, and they are not that thought. But in the meantime, until they have learned this complex truth, I will let them cry when they need to and be there to show them the benefit of releasing their emotions.