Twin Flame Connection is NOT a Fairytale Romance
May 28, 2022
We all are familiar with the saying, Love at First Sight. Well, when I met my other self, that is exactly what I felt. Because I was indoctrinated into the belief that love at first sight also entailed the other components to a fairy tale romance, I thought that I would experience this constant showering of love, affection, touch, and attention from my person. I thought they would be the person that I could cry on their shoulder, and they would make everything about my world better, if not perfect. Boy, was I mistaken.
That type of romantic relationship I described is not the hallmark of a twin flame connection, despite various outlets trying to romanticize it as such. What I just described is a soul mate connection. One that is based on a conditional love. Wait, what? Conditional love describes a soul mate? Yes, it does. It is an exchange of do this for me and I’ll do this for you. If a soul mate stops giving you something you need, it is a relationship where you can walk away and not look back. It thrives off the established conditions created by both parties. You can vent to a soul mate without pushing your energy onto them. You can ask them to tell you everything will be better, and they will. Let me dive into those last two statements a little bit more. Venting is mind, and when you try to vent with a TF, you immediately get into push energy, and they feel smothered. With a soulmate, they don’t care. Vent away. They will most likely even tell you what you want to hear. With a TF, their sole (soul) purpose is to make you the best version of yourself, to help you in your journey of soul alignment. That’s why they can’t listen to you vent. Because venting is not your best version, because it is all from mind.
A TF is the truest example of unconditional love. They love you because they are you. Therefore, no matter what is going on in the 3D, you will always love them. If they walk away, it is not like a soulmate where you can move on. Your other self is you. There is no separating from them. But just like you acknowledge that your person is your TF, you must acknowledge the rules that go with this connection. You must understand that you can’t have the expectations of a fairy tale to go with it. It doesn’t work that way. When I’m upset, now that I’m balanced, I can’t go and release my frustrations to my person. I need to find ways to allow my anger, frustrations, or sadness dissipate or be let go without pushing that energy onto him. This can be challenging, because the mind wants comfort and someone to tell it that everything will work out. But those are just words and ones you can tell yourself. Figure out what you are feeling a need for and learn how to fill that void yourself.
When I get upset now, instead of going to my person I try to either sit in silence and still my mind, or I have a few mantras that I repeat continuously until I calm myself, “I am the creator, I am peace, I am soul, I don’t need anything outside of myself”. Those are a few of my go to, and I focus on being present. This is an intentional practice to get out of mind and be able to self-soothe.
Your person is not here for the fairy tale. They are here to be the catalyst to level you up in your spiritual ascension. They are a byproduct of soul alignment. Find joy in the present moment with your person and you will see that your relationship will be able to thrive.
Xoxo,
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